Steps Leading up to Divorce
There’s nothing pleasant about divorce, yet roughly half of couples opt to pursue the legal termination to marriage. What happens to the marital relationship that brings people to this point? One counselor shares the top five reasons that couples say lead to giving up on marriage.
They Don’t Communicate
When daily chores become part of scorekeeping, serious discussions about what one spouse is feeling and what they need emotionally are very unlikely to occur. Couples who fail to share their deepest feelings, and furthermore, who are reluctant to ask how their partner is feeling, are experiencing something far from a healthy marriage. Taking time to discuss feelings has to be a priority!
They Lack Teamwork
When partners don’t view themselves as teammates, even the most minor of issues and discussion points can seem like a Herculean barrier to survival in a relationship. Partners who discuss the relationships failures in absolutes—he never… or she always… tend to start seeing themselves as enemies instead of trusted teammates who are there to help create a win together. Who’s dropping the kids off at soccer practice? If the answer is that it’s his turn because he hasn’t been pulling his weight at home lately, rather than acknowledging that the big work project has really been stressing him out, it’s a sign that the sense of team is on the wane. Couples who start to see gradual polarization need to find ways to get on the same page before it’s too late.
The have No Common Activities
Couples whose daily routines take them in different directions at all times are at risk of losing one another. For those who don’t remember what it’s like to look forward to time together, planning opportunities to talk, laugh, and experience joy together is essential.
The Solutions to their Problems are Over There
If one or both partners start feeling that the key to happiness lies elsewhere, the real problems begin. Whether that attitude leads to more hours at the office, more time with friends, more time with video games, or time finding another love interest, by looking outside the relationship for solutions, one is signaling that the marriage isn’t worth the time and effort to salvage.
They Refuse to get Help
When things get rocky, do one or both spouses refuse to discuss the issues with a counselor, clergy, or trusted advisor? If so, chances are things will bubble up and become unbearable. If the chasm widens beyond repair, it may be time for divorce.
When it’s Time for a Split
Do these symptoms sound familiar? If so, you may be considering divorce. At the Law Office of Hasson D. Barnes, our experienced Baltimore divorce attorneys will look out for your best interests along the way. Contact us today for a confidential consultation.