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Eight Tips For A Smoother Divorce


Divorce is fun—said no one ever!  There’s no question that divorce can be one of the most stressful times in a person’s life.  That being said, there are things you can do to reduce the challenges.  And while a lot of this stuff is common sense—it’s worth noting that many divorcees can’t seem to pull it off.  Can you?

  1.  Use your brain to make decisions; don’t let your emotions get the best of you!  You are likely bouncing around from the blues and poor-me syndrome to frustration and a desire to make things hard on your spouse.  But if this divorce is for real, you need to keep your head about you and make carefully considered choices.
  2. Don’t settle for your neighbor’s cousin who happens to be a lawyer.  Do some investigating and get an experienced, local divorce attorney who will pursue a course of action in alignment with your wishes.
  3. Have a realistic outlook.  There will be tough days ahead.  There will be wonderful days ahead.  Both are part of life, and you will get through it.
  4. Understand your spouse and be prepared to deal with whatever shenanigans may be coming your way. Sadly, some divorces are plagued with snaky maneuvers related to hidden assets, untrue allegations, and marginalizing the needs of the kids.  A knowledgeable divorce attorney can help to anticipate and respond to these kinds of issues.
  5. Don’t go into the divorce blind.  Find out as much as possible related to family finances so you have a good idea of your footing going forward.
  6. Be fair.  Even if your spouse is a snake, you win because that person is not going to be your spouse for much longer.  You get to live with yourself, a good person whose integrity has gotten you this far and will carry forward when this is over with.
  7. Prioritize the kids.  That means understanding that their other parent is a part of their lives, even though it’s a bit inconvenient for you. Make a parenting plan that works and allow your children to love both parents.  Compromise when it’s best for them, even if you may not be able to expect the same from your spouse.
  8. Listen to your Baltimore divorce attorney.  Their understanding of Maryland law and ability to translate your wishes into action is predicated on a desire to achieve the best possible outcomes for you. If they provide insights, listen. 

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